From single hook-ups to friends with benefits, flings are now a common way of connecting. However, there comes a time when you want your special friend to become more. Whether it’s an ongoing fling or in the budding stages, here are 5 tips to make sure you no where you stand.
Does your fling suggests going somewhere or planning a date three months down the line? Discussing future plans not only makes for a solid bases of hanging out but reaffirms that your relationship means more than sex. Whether it’s visiting your favourite band that you always wanted to see or taking a road trip to a nearby city, planning to hang out in the future shows that you are thinking ahead and enjoy the idea of being around one another.
When was the last time you saw your fling? Was it for a middle of the day tryst or a midnight fumble? Now when was the last time you did anything casual and spent time together where it didn’t end up under the covers? Hanging out for the sake of being in each other’s company is one way to tell if your fling could potentially be the real thing. So suggest seeing your favourite film, or get to know your partner at your local cafe; whatever you decide, spending time outside of the bedroom is a great way of gauging their interest.
Show you’re getting to know them
Getting to know someone is another good sign that the relationship is not a one off. Whether it’s suggesting watching a specific film because they know you love a certain actor, or maybe they remembered your favourite flavour of ice-cream and bought some; whatever it is, it’s all about noticing the little details. When these things become about another person, it shows that they have listened and taken those things on board.
Meet the friends
Meeting your flings friends shows that they are interested in introducing you to other aspects of their life that doesn’t revolve around the bedroom. Be sure to make a good impression – friends definitely talk! Suggest hanging out with a couple of your own as a group, or tag along with their friends for a fun night out. If they seem interested in you tagging along, then you have your answer. However, if they don’t seem interested or keen on the idea, you might need to rethink your situation.
Be honest and just ask
Although this one may be a little forward and has the potential to get awkward, it’s definitely the quickest way to find out where exactly things are going. Honesty is an important foundation when it comes to any relationship, so being honest about your feelings at this stage could be the push your fling needs to taking your relationship to the next level. Make it clear you’re not forcing them into a relationship, but want to make sure that you two are on the same page.