Am I expected to look like a porn star?

Botox and body doubles

As Dolly Parton famously said: “It costs a lot of money to look this cheap”. It’s the same for porn stars. Most spend thousands on surgery, sculpting and industrial quantities of make-up to transform their natural bodies into fantasy figures for the men and women that watch them. That’s what porn is. A fantasy.

Real life’s just not like that. We all come in different shapes and sizes. And what’s attractive to one person can be a complete turn off to another.

Of course, you can try to make the best of what you have, by following a healthy diet and going to gym, but anything more extreme often comes with consequences. Surgery carries risk, steroids have horrible side effects and laxatives can cause health complications and even life-threatening conditions(1).

You don’t need massive boobs or to be hung like a horse to keep your partner happy. If things feel a little tame, why not spice up your sex life? Try out some new positions for example. Check out our article Karma Sutra for Beginners for inspiration.

Remember, your partner’s with you because they like you. They fancy you. They’re attracted to your personality and find your body sexy. Relax. And just have fun.

Sources:

1. https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/learn/general-information/laxative-abuse