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Does size really matter?

If you’ve ever watched any porn, you might feel a little self-conscious about whether you’re measuring up. But remember, those guys are paid good money partly because they’ve big willies and, no matter how much they seem to be pleasuring their partners, they too are paid to look like they’re having the time of their lives.

In real life, penises come in all shapes and sizes. The average erect penis is 13.24 cm (5.21 in) with an average girth of 11.66 cm (4.59 in). Average flaccid length and girth are estimated to be 9.16 cm (3.6 in) and 9.31 cm (3.66 in)(1). Despite all the locker room comparisons, only 2.28% of the male population have an abnormally small penis (2).

Men can get particularly hung up on these figures - especially less well-endowed men who believe (wrongly) that bigger is better. Some women do prefer deeper vaginal stimulation but that’s not the be all and end all. 36.6% of women surveyed said they needed clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm during sex and 36% said, although they didn’t need clitoral stimulation, it did enhance their experience (3). This goes to show that length has very little to do with sexual pleasure. There’s also no evidence that larger penises give more pleasure during anal sex.

Do women (and men) feel small penises inside them? Yes, absolutely. Sexual pleasure is about quality, not quantity. Foreplay, length of intercourse and erectile function are more important than any extra millimetres you might wish for.

Check out our guide to the best sex positions for every penis size.


1. Am I normal? A systematic review and construction of nomograms for flaccid and erect penis length and circumference in up to 15 521 men – British Journal of Urology -




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