How to Give a Blow Job that Blows His Mind

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There are very few men who don’t enjoy receiving oral sex and if you're wondering how to give a blow job that will leave him quivering, you're in the right place. For some, being able to give an incredible blow job and leave their lover panting with pleasure is a point of pride. However, others lack confidence. The first key trick is not to think about it as a chore; it doesn’t have to live up to its name and feel like a job!

It can be empowering to know that you are completely in charge of making your man feel amazing, making the experience genuinely enjoyable for both partners.

Here’s our step-by-step guide with top tips for how to give your man good head…and getting an almighty kick out of it yourself.

 

Don’t Dive Straight In

Our first tip for giving a ‘bj’ to remember is to take your time. Begin by placing tiny, teasing kisses on his stomach and thighs, before letting your lips graze the tip of his penis. Not only does this foreplay build sizzling tension, but in a new relationship, it gives you a chance to suss out his body and take a good look at what you’re working with!

 

Use lubricants

Have you heard of any guy who likes a dry blow job? We advise that wetter is better! Use lube suitable for oral to ease your way into a blow job that he will never forget.

Flavoured lubricants add juicy flavour for you, feel deliciously slick for him, and mean you don’t have to worry about your mouth becoming dry. Pump a few drops into your palm and smooth them onto his skin, stimulating him with your hand at the same.

In addition to lube, keep water by the bed and take sips now and again.  Again, this will help stop dehydration. As well as making things easier for you, the cool liquid will feel great against his penis and give him a mix of different sensations.

Long Licks from Base to Tip

Giving good head means using all parts of your mouth. With your tongue broad and flat, lick the whole length of him, making eye contact – showing him you’re excited and unashamedly enjoying yourself will relax and arouse him.

Practice the Matchstick Method

Next, take his penis inside your mouth. Penises are built rather like matchsticks: the hottest parts are at the top – the head and the frenulum, which connects to the shaft, contain the most nerve endings and are most sensitive. Concentrate your action here, alternating between sucking, swirling your tongue one way and then another, and flicking it lightly.

Keep Your Hands Handy

If you do want to give the sensation of taking him deeply without this being uncomfortable for you, wrap one hand around the base of his shaft, and move it up and down in time with the movements of your mouth. While giving a blow job, don’t neglect the rest of his body: use your fingers to delicately caress his testicles, run your nails gently up his inner thighs, or pinch his nipples if that’s an area he likes to be stimulated.  

Stay Eager While Taking a Breather

You’ll want to take a break from time to time to avoid getting jaw ache. Keep the passion flowing by kissing him, massaging him with your hands, or giving him a scintillating show by touching yourself in front of him for a few moments. This demonstrates that giving him oral is turning you on and reminds him that this is about your pleasure as well as his.

Own Those Moans

Many men find it intensely sexy to hear their lover making appreciative noises during oral sex – plus, placing your lips against his penis and humming a blissed-out ‘mmmmm’ sends gorgeous vibrations travelling through his manhood. Want to advance things to the next level? Try holding a small vibrator against your cheek while he’s inside your mouth.

Keep Him Calm

As they approach climax, some guys can become over-excited, and thrust too powerfully into their partner’s mouth or instinctively grasp their partner’s head in a way that not all women find pleasant. If this happens, try pulling away and asking him to slow down so you can enjoy him.

Try the ‘Magic 8 Ball’

Keeping a regular rhythm with your mouth while giving a blow job helps build a man’s orgasm, but to avoid both of you getting bored by endlessly bobbing your head up and down, perform eight shallow sucks, just taking the tip of his penis between your lips. Next, treat him to seven shallow sucks and one deeper one. After that, give him six shallow sucks and two deeper ones, and so on… until he is ready to burst.

Use ribbed and dotted condoms

Condoms protect against the transmission of STIs during oral sex and flavoured ones taste great too. Ribbed and dotted condoms provide an exciting sensation and could be a perfect addition to the blow job. Putting on a condom with your mouth is impressive, sensual, and easier than you might imagine…

Place the condom flat against your lips, with the inside of it facing outwards, away from you. Softly suck the teat into your mouth and use your tongue to press out any air from it. Next, press the inside of the condom against the head of his penis and push the first inch or so into your mouth, covering it with the condom as you go. Use your hand to smooth the rest of it down his shaft to the base and you’re ready for the main event! (You may wish to practice on your own; use a banana or a sex toy!)

 

So, when you’re about to give your man head remember these tips:

  • Don’t dive right in
  • Use lubricants
  • Long licks from base to tip
  • Practise the matchstick method
  • Keep your hands handy
  • Stay eager while taking a breather
  • Own those moans
  • Keep him calm
  • Try the ‘Magic 8 ball’
  • Use ribbed and dotted condoms

 

Congratulations! If you've made it through all of these steps, you'll become a seasoned oral sex expert. And remember to keep your favourite lube or sex toy handy, because after you have given him the blow job of a lifetime, he may feel like treating you back too.