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How To Please A Woman With Your Hands


The hands can be used to pleasure a woman in wonderfully satisfying ways. Although often dismissed as something to only do during foreplay, introducing a finger at almost any point of a sexual encounter can heighten and increase pleasure.

If you’re a novice when it comes to the art of fingering a woman then you’re in the right place; our fingering ‘how to’ has all the information you need to get you started. Perhaps you are a self-proclaimed expert of fingering? If so, it never hurts to refresh your knowledge and you may even pick up something new.

Here is everything you need to know about pleasuring a woman with your hands.

What does fingering mean?

Let’s start off simple, what do we mean when we talk of fingering a woman? Essentially, it is the use of your hands and fingers to bring pleasure through stimulation of the vagina.

If you are new to manual stimulation, you would be forgiven for thinking this refers to penetration of the vaginal opening alone, however there is so much more to it than that. Whether it be stimulation of the clitoris or exploration of the labia, what you do with your hands can have a massive effect on how satisfied she is by the end of the night.

And no, fingering doesn’t end when the foreplay stops, deploy a cheeky finger to the clitoris during penetrative sex and you may find you’ve doubled down on the pleasure she is receiving.

Learn what she likes

Every woman is different, every vagina is different. If you have a partner and you are curious about how to best please them, your best option may be to simply ask them what they like.

Simply being open and honest with your partner may be the quickest route to mastering the art of the finger. If she masturbates, you can be certain that she knows what you should be doing to get her off.

If you are both feeling really brave, why not discuss the possibility of her masturbating in your presence? This way you can easily observe how it should be done. If you are both comfortable with this, why not try putting your hand on top of hers to feel which finger she uses, where she uses it and how fast she moves.

Get her in the mood

It may be the case that your sexual encounter is with a new partner or maybe it’s a one-night stand. If this is the case, you probably won’t feel comfortable asking them to masturbate in front of you.

If you are getting down and dirty with a new sexual partner, be sure to get her in the mood first. Before even contemplating using a finger to penetrate her, you need to kiss her and caress her body. Pay attention to her other erogenous zones to ensure that when you do make your move she is fully in the moment.

Once you are certain she is ready, begin with some gentle stroking and exploration of the entire vaginal area, paying close attention to the visual and auditory clues of what she is enjoying and what she isn’t.

How to stimulate the clitoris

A great place to start once you’ve thoroughly warmed your partner up is the clitoris. Master stimulation of the clitoris and she is almost certain to thank you.

You can find the clitoris at the top of the vagina right under where the labia meet. It can often feel like a small soft button to touch. However it is important to remember that this is a part of your partner’s body, it’s not something to be simply poked away at.

Experiment with different techniques, speeds and pressures when stimulating the clitoris, but remember to start gently and work your way up – the clitoris can be highly sensitive.

Using your fingers on a woman isn’t just part of foreplay. It can be a wonderful way to show her how much you love pleasuring her; an easy way to thrill her when you’re not in the mood; and can also come in handy if you ‘finish first’ during sex and don’t want to leave her high and dry.

If you’re looking for something to make your handywork even more enjoyable for her, look no further than our Intense Orgasmic Gel. Introduce some of our special gel while you manually pleasure her and she could soon be experiencing wave after wave of orgasmic tingling sensations.

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