How To Spend Your First Valentine's Day As An LGBT Couple
Valentine’s Day is a holiday filled with clichés, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t celebrate it. After all, if you’re just starting out in a relationship, it can be a fantastic way to show your love and understanding of your partner’s wants and needs. When it comes to being in your first LGBT relationship, it’s perhaps even more important to show your significant other you care, especially if one or both of you have only just come out.
With that in mind, we’ve put together some cracking ideas for how LGBT couples can spend their very first Valentine’s Day together.
Be Who You Want to Be
It’s easy to forget we live in the 21st Century and that, for the majority of people at least, seeing an LGBT couple walking hand-in-hand along the street isn’t an issue whatsoever.
Unfortunately, a 2016 study of more than 1,000 LGBT people commissioned by Pride in London found that 74% of LGBT people say that they still feel the need to hide their sexual orientation or gender identity. The same research also showed that 55% of gay men would think twice about showing affection to their partners or friends in public (Pink News, 2016).
Despite the unfortunate news that LGBT-related hate crimes are on the rise in the UK, the fact is that it is still a rare occurrence, and we’ve made great strides as a nation in becoming more accepting of the ever-changing landscape we find ourselves in (Stonewall, 2017). The message here then is if you want to hold hands with your partner or show a public display of affection this Valentine’s Day, go for it and don’t worry about what anyone else thinks.
Ditch the Flowers for a Picnic
We all know those dreaded Valentine’s Day clichés, and for some, a bunch of 12 red roses or some pricey Belgian chocolates is still the key to their heart, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. But if you’re looking for a cheap, romantic first Valentine’s event, try out a floor picnic.
With the typically British weather at this time of the year, it’s probably wise to stay clear of attempting an outdoor picnic, but an indoor one is even more romantic. Pick a selection of you and your lover’s favourite foods, couple it with a nice bottle of bubbly and lay a picnic blanket down on the floor – just as you would outside.
The trick here is in the detail. Light a few candles and play some romantic music for a wonderful experience that is sure to please both you and your partner. Anyone for dessert?
Take it to the Bedroom
So, you’ve had your picnic and now both of you are absolutely in the mood for something sweet. Sex is an important part of any relationship, and a way of cementing the growing love between two people. It can also be exciting, thrilling and intense. Of course, there’s more to sex than just intercourse and on Valentine’s Day, it’s the perfect way of going that extra mile.
From foreplay to intimate massage, the opportunities for you both in the bedroom are practically endless. If this will be your first time, we’ve got you covered. Our Prepare for Your First Time article has been written with you in mind, so check it out if you’re starting to get nervous.
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Have a Night on the Town
For couples who love to party hard, there’s nothing better than hitting the clubs in a safe and secure environment. For LGBT couples, one of the biggest concerns is the issue of homophobic abuse, but thankfully the introduction of the Purple Flag scheme is helping to tackle that and anti-social behaviour in general.
Introduced in 2012, Purple Flag status is awarded to towns and cities that offer members of the public a safe, entertaining and varied night out. Across the UK, there are 70 towns and cities that have this accreditation so if you fancy getting away from your hometown for the night, check to see if your destination has Purple Flag accreditation (ATCM).
Once there, scope out the LGBT-friendly bars and nightclubs that are in the locality for a night to remember. Most cities in the UK offer such a diverse range of activities in the evening that there’ll be something for everyone – even the hardest to please. If you want to be really flash, why not hire a limo?
How About Star Gazing?
Yes, we know it’s February. But does that really matter if you’re doing something incredibly romantic with your beloved? While staring up at the stars might not seem like the best thing to do in the middle of Winter, February is actually the perfect time to do it, with clear Winter nights reducing the amount of humidity in the air (Mental Floss, 2016).
First, scope out an area high enough to get a good view and away from major sources of light pollution. Second, take a thermos of hot chocolate, a blanket, a pair of binoculars and some warm clothing for a night out under the stars. Lastly, pray for a dry, clear day which, in February, is a miracle in itself!
Have a Pampering Session
There’s nothing better than coming home on a Friday night after a stressful week at work with a bath waiting for you. Unfortunately, there are no such luxuries this year as Valentine’s Day falls on a weekday.
However, that doesn’t mean you can’t pamper both you and your lover. A relaxing bath coupled with scented candles and bubbles sounds like a recipe for success. You can then migrate to the bedroom where you are both able to explore each other’s bodies with an intimate massage.
Using a product like Durex Play 2 in 1 Massage Lube can help you to rouse the senses with a mutual massage and then, if the mood takes you both, move into sex without the need to switch lubricants. Compatible with Durex condoms and able to be applied to the entire body, it’s the perfect accompaniment to your not-so-quiet night in.
The importance of Valentine’s Day depends very much on your personal opinion on the holiday itself, but if you are planning on celebrating your love this year, then hopefully these ideas will give you some inspiration.
Pink News, 2016, Majority of LGBT People Still ‘too scared to come out’
ATCM, Purple Flag Status: How it Fits Place Management Policy
Mental Floss, 2016, 13 Tips for Stargazing from Astronomers