Want to know more about the world of masturbation? Or perhaps you’re a newcomer when it comes to the art of getting yourself off? Either way, we have put together the ultimate introductory guide to masturbation that should help you on your path to self-pleasure.

Masturbation can be a great way to relieve stress but there is also still quite a bit of stigma around the act. So, without further ado, let’s work our way through some of the most commonly asked questions about masturbation.

What is masturbation?

To put it plainly, masturbation is the act of genital stimulation, with the goal typically being to achieve orgasm. For men, this usually translates as the use of either one or two hands on the erect penis. For women, there can be slightly more variation, however, use of one or two fingers to stimulate the clitoris is fairly commonplace.

Who masturbates?

As there is quite a bit of stigma around the act of masturbation, and the fact that it isn’t exactly an ideal talking point for casual conversation, you may be in the dark when it comes to understanding how common masturbation is.

According to our Global Sex Survey, where we interviewed nearly 30,000 people on their sex lives, around 61% of reported that they currently masturbate/self-pleasure, with around 10% claiming to have never masturbated.

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What is mutual masturbation?

Mutual masturbation is the act of masturbating together with your partner. If you’ve never tried it before, it may sound a little dull and not exactly something to be excited about bringing into your foreplay routine, but it can be a really great way to build intimacy.

Why not try sitting cross-legged in front of each other whilst you masturbate mutually? The great thing about this is that you both have a closeup view of what your partner is doing which can be a real turn-on. From this position, you can also easily lean forward for a passionate kiss to really heighten the excitement.

How do I masturbate?

You know what they say, practise makes perfect! The best way to get the most out of your self-love is to learn what feels good for you. To get started, simply find yourself some quiet time and experiment with what feels good. Just be sure to do it safely and ensure you don’t do anything that feels uncomfortable.

If you’re looking for guidance, why not try asking a friend that you’re comfortable with if they have any tips? They may be able to give you a few pointers to get the most out of your ‘me time’.

Already mastered the art of self-stimulation but looking to get more out of it? You can really take it to the next level with some carefully applied lubricant.

For her, why not try out some Durex Intense Orgasmic Gel. For him, any one of our lubes should do the trick. Our Durex Play Tingling Water Based Lube, for example, is easy to apply and can feel great on your penis when you masturbate. Once applied, our lubes reduce the friction between your hand or finger and your genitals, opening you up to the world of incredible sensations.

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Masturbation FAQs

Have more questions when it comes to the world of masturbation? Check out our quick-fire FAQs where we answer some of the most commonly asked questions about the act of self-love:

Is masturbation harmful?

In short, no, masturbation is not harmful. Provided you are masturbating in a safe and natural way, and that your masturbation isn’t getting in the way of your day to day life, it’s a perfectly natural and healthy thing to do. Want to know more? Check out our article on the side effects & benefits of masturbation now.

Should I feel ashamed when I masturbate?

At times, touching yourself can feel dirty, but you shouldn't feel that way. Masturbation is completely natural and is thought to have a few benefits for the body too. Getting to know yourself better through masturbation could even help you feel more sexually confident.

How can I stop feeling bad about masturbation?

There’s no easy way to fix this but it’s important to re-frame how you think of masturbation; it’s essentially an act of self-care, it’s good for your health and it is a great way to look after your mental health. When you’re with friends, try discussing masturbation to break down some of the stigma. This may help you feel more comfortable about the act itself.

Does masturbation reduce the amount of sperm I have?

To put it plainly, masturbation does not reduce sperm count. The idea that masturbating too much permanently depletes sperm stores is a classic masturbation myth. The testicles replenish sperm following ejaculation so there is no need to worry about running out. Want to find out more about the myths of male masturbation, check out our article debunking the top 5 masturbation myths now.

Why am I struggling to climax when I masturbate?

According to the NHS, some people struggle with orgasm due to psychological factors ranging from stress at work to bigger issues, like depression. There are also physical factors that might be at play. Health conditions like diabetes, drug or alcohol use, and a number of commonly used medications have all been known to contribute to difficulty orgasming for men.

Is it cheating if I masturbate whilst I’m in a relationship?

Our immediate response to this answer is a big, resounding no. If you’ve agreed to be monogamous with your partner, that’s to be respected but it shouldn’t rule out a bit of masturbation. It doesn’t detract from being in a committed relationship and, if anything, will enrich you and your partner’s sex life in the long run.

How can I integrate mutual masturbation into my sex life with my partner?

A bit of mutual masturbation can be a great way of spicing things up in the bedroom and can mark a new level of intimacy. All you need to do to get started is ask, if your partner’s up for it then it’s on.

Should I masturbate with a condom?

Well, that’s up to you and what you enjoy. But it’s always worth exploring and trying different things out when it comes to jerking off. If you’re into using toys when you pleasure yourself, condoms can be useful for keeping everything hygienic.

Do sex toys make masturbation better?

Each person is different, but some people do find that sex toys can maximise their pleasure. When shopping, it’s worth thinking about your sexual needs and what toy might best suit them. Women who enjoy clitoral stimulation might be best served by a vibrator, for example.

How do you masturbate in the bath or shower?

The bath or the shower are popular places for a bit of self-love — largely because they represent a rare window of peace and quiet in your daily routine. If you are masturbating in the shower, avoid using shower gel as it can be an irritant for the more delicate areas.

How many calories does masturbation burn?

We’re all familiar with the idea that sex can help burn calories, but can masturbation do the same? Unfortunately, there is little evidence to suggest normal masturbation has a significant effect on calorie burning, so it’s probably not worth incorporating it into your workout routine.

 

Want to read more about all things sex? Head over to our Explore Sex blog today where we discuss everything from phone sex to the best lube for anal.

 

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