As you enter the new year with your partner, what better time to consider some resolutions that will keep the sparks flying in the bedroom? Forget eating less chocolate, joining a gym, or taking up a new hobby – this new year, resolutions should be all about enjoying better sex. A new year is a fantastic opportunity to try new things and discuss with your partner what works and what doesn’t; after all, nothing says ‘happy new year’ like the big ‘O’!
Love Your Body
There’s no denying that when we feel good, we look good. Sex is all about exploring each other’s bodies and learning about what you enjoy. If you’re body conscious, you’re more likely to want a quickie under the covers, or ask for the lights to be switched off. Baring all and seeing all of each other will not only bring you closer, but will open up more opportunities and areas to be touched, resulting in heightened pleasure.
As well as this, the more confident you are, the sexier you will feel, and this can be a great turn on for your partner. Confidence will encourage you to try new things, get into new positions, and experience pleasure you’ve never felt before. To help boost your confidence, focus on the things that you love about your body and make it a priority to look in the mirror each morning and compliment something you like about yourself that day. Dressing up in sexy lingerie is also a great way to feel good about yourself, and it can be your own little secret or a fantastic surprise for your lover.
Spend More Time on Foreplay
While it may be tempting to rush straight into intercourse, foreplay has a very important role in the bedroom. From a survey of 1,250 UK women, it was found over 80% of women could not reach orgasm though intercourse alone, with the majority needing stimulation of the clitoris in order to climax (FPA, 2017). This means that by jumping straight to penetrative sex you will narrow your chances of giving and achieving orgasms.
Foreplay not only helps us achieve orgasms, but is a great way to set the mood and get each other aroused. It’s important to not just focus on the genitals alone, and remember to pay attention to your partner’s other erogenous zones too. Erogenous zones are area of the body that have heightened sensitivity, and the stimulation of these can lead to sexual arousal and even orgasms (Science Direct, 2014). Whilst these erogenous zones differ from men to women and also between every individual, the most common zones are the neck, earlobes and let’s not forget the nipples.
Whilst some may find this an embarrassing topic to talk about, sex toys can be a great addition to any sexual encounter. The taboo surrounding vibrators, dildos and cock rings is slowly dissolving as people realise using a sex toy doesn’t make you or your partner inadequate, but provides increased individual or mutual pleasure.
There is a wide variety of toys available in all shapes and sizes, from discreet bullet-sized vibrators to intimate massagers – designed to glide over all the right places. You should have no trouble finding something that works for both you and your partner.
Use More Lube
Lubricant is quite often misconstrued and associated with only those lacking in natural lubrication. However, lubricant can play a very important role in all sexual encounters, and isn’t necessarily used just for providing comfort.
Lube is a fun way to increase stimulation with your partner, and can enhance your pleasure during foreplay and intercourse. Durex offers a variety of lubes to suit your every need, from Durex Intense Orgasmic gel – designed to increase sensitivity and clitoral stimulation, to Durex Play Tingling Lube – which provides a warm, tingly feeling in your sensitive areas. Always check that your choice of lube is compatible use with condoms, and create just that little bit of extra pleasure!
Enjoy Sex Around the Clock
Sex doesn’t have to be limited to a certain time or day, and it certainly doesn’t have to occur only when you head to bed in the evening. If you’re not a morning person, morning sex can be a great way to start your day, and you might even start looking forward to the sound of your alarm!
Sex doesn’t have to be initiated only in the bedroom either; if you both work close by and get the same lunch break slot, popping home for a midday quickie on the kitchen counter has surely got to be better than munching squashed sandwiches with your co-workers. Scheduling time in for sex doesn’t make it any less romantic, and in fact gives you something to look forward to!
We know that after a long day at work, the thought of hitting the gym is never appealing. However, sex has cardiovascular benefits too (NHS, 2017), and is a lot more fun than Pilates! Intimacy can be initiated through simple chores such as cooking your evening meal together, or even when you’re snuggled up on the sofa. It’s never the wrong time for a bit of romance! Making more time and effort to get sexually physical with your partner can help towards a happy and fulfilling relationship, and let your partner know that you still enjoy and crave each other.
FPA, 2017 – Orgasms in UK Women – an Online Survey
Science Direct, 2014 – Human Pheromones and the Vomeronasal Organ
NHS, 2017 – Benefits of love and sex
Confidence will encourage you to try new things, get into new positions, and experience pleasure you're never felt before.