Finding someone who sweeps you off your feet is a great feeling. The electricity is undeniable and the attraction is sensual. Despite the hearts racing and the lips twitching, it can be tempting to throw all caution to the wind, strip naked and get busy in bed. However, it’s a good idea to come back down to Earth for a moment and ask your partner a few questions before letting the good times roll.
Have You Been Tested Recently?
Sex is a great way to bond with your partner while having fun. If you are interested in taking your relationship to the next level, asking about your partner’s sexual health is a great opportunity to stay healthy while discovering your partner’s status.
Not only does this show you care, it also shows a level of maturity and responsibility that your partner will appreciate. So if you are worried about how your partner will react, just understand that speaking openly and honestly is a great way to build up intimacy.
What Are Your Intentions?
Entering a physical relationship with someone new can come with a host of questions. ‘Does this person really like me?’ ‘Are they just looking for a committed relationship or just a hookup buddy?’ Perhaps, your potential mate is looking for a "casual but committed" relationship, while you are looking for something serious.
To help eliminate any confusion or disappointment in the long run, asking this important question is a great way to clear any misunderstandings that may arise. To minimise any awkward silences or encounters during the conversation, figure out how your relationship is going before you decide to ask. If you can’t wait, ask your partner how they view your relationship and go from there.
Do You Have Protection?
Intimacy with your partner for the first time can be both exciting and nerve-wrecking. However, it’s a lot easier to take out the guesswork by bringing up protection. There’s nothing worse than getting close to the finish line and realising that neither of you brought condoms.
As a rule of thumb, you and your partner should always have a condom around especially when you are meeting up for a date or a hookup. To ensure your condoms are effective, store them properly and make sure that they have not not expired.
Can we experiment in the bedroom?
Before breaking out the whips and chains, it’s a good idea to ask if your partner is into that sort of thing. If not, you run the risk of creating an uncomfortable situation, and that’s the last thing you want to do. Making sure that your partner is interested in experimenting should be a conversation that happens naturally.
There’s nothing worse than forcing your thoughts and feelings on your partner without ensuring that they are OK with the idea. To make sure your partner is happy with engaging in kinky games or sex toys, be sure to discuss boundaries and come up with a safe word. A safe word is something determined ahead of time, and can be used during sex to indicate that a particular activity should end.
Entering a physical relationship with someone new can come with a host of questions.