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Sex With A New Lover: Get Over The First Time Nerves


Having sex for the first time is an important step for anyone to take; man or woman. You need to make sure that both you and your partner are ready but you also need to make sure that you are ready to face those inevitable first time nerves, even if you’ve both had sex with other people before, so that it can be as special as possible.

Being a little apprehensive before your first time is perfectly normal but you need to be sure that what you are feeling is genuine jitters and not an indication that you’re not ready to have sex. You should never feel pressurised into doing something before you’re ready but if you are confident that the time is right then these tips will help ensure you have great sex from the very first encounter.

Practice putting on a condom

Undoubtedly one of the most nerve-wracking parts of first time sex is the use of condoms. It is important that you practice safe sex from the very beginning but if you aren’t used to putting condoms on or are a little out of practice, then you may find that you’re first few attempts run less than smoothly.

A good way to ease your nerves and ensure that you and your partner both stay safe is to practice putting condoms on beforehand. You can use a banana to practice on and should remember to always pinch the tip of the condom when applying to ensure it is fitted correctly.

Whether you do this alone or with your partner is up to you but it is important that you both know what you are doing and can put a condom on safely. Not only will it make your lovemaking more versatile but it also ensures that you are protected from unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases.

Foreplay is important

You and your partner are likely to be excited – and therefore aroused – but you don’t want things to come to a premature end.

To prevent this, take it slow and make sure you enjoy lots of foreplay. This will help you to both relax and make sex easier and more enjoyable but will also help you to discover each others bodies and learn what gets you aroused. Why not offer your new lover a massage using sensual oils to help them relax and get into the mood?

Kissing is also a very sensual experience so make sure that this is an important part of your foreplay and don’t be scared to experiment with different pressures and touches around other parts of the body, but always check that your partner is happy with what you’re doing.

Stay comfortable

Finally, it is important to remember that the first time you have sex with your new partner should be a really special and memorable experience. Taking things slowly and not penetrating too hard or too deep to begin with is advisable so that both partners feel comfortable, but you should also consider using lubes to help ease things along.

Durex have a great variety of lubricants available with different sensations and flavours, and these will ensure that sex is comfortable for both partners as well as offering pleasure enhancing benefits; allowing you to relax and enjoy the new sensations that are opening up to you both.

Remember to have fun and be open about what feels good – after all, this could shape the start of what’s to come in the future….

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