Considering anal sex for the first time? There are a few things you may need to think about before you take the plunge. Anal sex can be a wonderful thrill and a great way to spice things up in the bedroom however, it’s not quite as straight forward as simply deciding to try it.
Anal sex can unlock new realms of pleasure, if you’re a newcomer though, the whole thing can be fairly intimidating. But fear not, we’re here to help. Consider this your anal sex beginner’s guide, where we provide you with some great tips for anal sex.
What does anal sex feel like?
Let’s start with the basics. This is a question you are probably turning over and over in your mind if you are planning on having anal sex for the first time – particularly if you are the one who is going to be receiving anal sex – what does anal sex actually feel like?
Well, there isn’t a simple, straight forward answer to this question. We believe it’s all about the preparation. Get things wrong and anal sex can be a pain, get it right and you may find you can’t get enough.
It’s important to note that the purpose of anal sex is essentially pleasure, but it’s not as straight forward as vaginal sex. The vagina, unlike the rectum, produces a natural lubricant to help things run smoothly. This means that rushing into anal sex isn’t advisable. You may be aiming for pleasure, but you’ll likely end up with quite a bit of discomfort if you don’t plan and lubricate properly.
With this in mind, your first consideration when prepping for anal should be lube. First and foremost, it’s important to check that your chosen lube is anal sex friendly, so be sure to read the pack instructions fully before use. If you’re looking to acquaint yourself with a new anal lube, then look no further than our Perfect Glide Silicone Based Gel Lube. Suitable for anal, it should help your first time run as smoothly as possible.
Once lube is applied, you should consider ‘warming up’ first, this should ensure that your partner’s penis enters you more comfortably. Have them start with a finger initially to ensure your anus relaxes. You could then introduce a small sex toy before progressing on to penetration with the penis.
Once your partner is in, you will find that anal sex, although a different feeling from vaginal sex, can provide you with a world of pleasure and new sensations.
Benefit of anal sex for women
One great benefit of anal sex is that there is 0% chance of getting pregnant. If you and your partner are a little concerned about pregnancy and want a 100% guarantee that intercourse won’t lead to childbirth 9 months down the line, then anal is the way to go.
As you may be aware, even when you use a male condom according to the pack instructions for vaginal sex, they are only 98% effective at preventing pregnancy. With anal, you’ll have nothing to worry about.
Another benefit of anal sex for women is that you are opening up yourself to a whole new world of pleasure. Anal sex can be very exciting and stimulating, but once you’ve gotten used to the feeling of anal, it doesn’t need to sit in isolation from other forms of sex.
Whilst your partner penetrates you anally have them experiment with some vaginal penetration with sex toys. This way you’re going to be getting twice the pleasure you usually would!
Benefit of anal sex for men
The main benefit of anal sex for men is that it can result in a powerful orgasm. This is because anal sex can stimulate the prostate (also known as the ‘P spot’) triggering a prostate orgasm. Although there is little evidence to support the case, many men claim that orgasms achieved through anal are much more powerful than regular orgasms.
Long term effects of anal sex
According to plannedparenthood.org, contrary to popular belief, anal sex is healthy and does not cause any long-term damage. They do go on to state however that, as with vaginal sex, there is a small chance of prolapse. They also state that, if the receiver has haemorrhoids, anal sex could aggravate or worsen them.
Another consideration when it comes to the long-term effects of anal sex is STIs. If you have any concerns in that department, it’s always better to be safe than sorry, so be sure to use a condom.
How can I make anal sex more pleasurable?
If you want to get more out of anal sex, there are loads of ways to do it. First off, why not try incorporating some analingus into your foreplay repertoire? Adding some rimming can go a long way to making your anal experience that little bit more special. Check out our introductory guide to analingus to get started.
Alternatively, to really up your anal game, why not try using a different variety of anal lubes? Check out our ultimate guide to the best lubes for anal sex here.
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