Dating can be nerve-wracking! From the initial hello to the sitting down for the first dinner/drink, the tension can be pretty daunting to say the least. However, once the date gets into a flow, you should use it as an opportunity to find out as much about the other person as possible. Don’t bombard them with hundreds of personal questions which can put them off; instead, ask them questions that encourage them to open up about their interests, career and background. This will help ensure that you don’t waste any future dates if they don’t!
To make sure your date goes off without a hinge, here are 5 questions to ask on a first date to help give you a strong indication whether you and your date are compatible or not.
How do you usually spend your weekends?
What people do with their free time says a lot about them as a person. It is also good to know whether you have shared interests, which would come in handy for future dates. If your date tells you they normally work on the weekends or has to travel frequently, then this might not be your ideal type of relationship for you. However, if they say they like to visit different places, eat out, and go to local galleries and exhibitions, then this could match up with your interests completely.
What’s your favourite place in the world?
Everyone has a favourite place. It could be an exotic beach somewhere across the globe, or a gran parents farmhouse in the countryside. Either way, it’s great to know where your new potential partner likes to spend time as chances are you could be paying a visit to that place too, should the relationship flourish. This question also leads into many other conversations about travel and holidays, and places you would both like to go; which could reveal some more things that you have in common.
Do you see your family much?
Although talking about this topic could be a sore point for some people, it is good to establish early on where your date stands in terms of their family relationship. Not only so that you know for yourself, but also so that you don’t say anything further into the date or future dates, that could cause upset or embarrassment. You will quickly sense how willing your date is to openly talk about their family, so if they don’t seem like they feel comfortable in doing so, then don’t push it. There will be time for them to share more intimate information with you further down the line, if things go well.
Do you date very often?
For some, a date is a very important affair – it could be the start of a new long term relationship or friendship, and therefore care and consideration is taken to ensure it goes smoothly. However, for others, dating is just a past-time – perhaps they are not even looking for a relationship at all. Therefore, it’s helpful to know that you and your date are both on the same page. If your date’s answer is that they frequently go on dates with lots of different people, then you might re-evaluate their motives for meeting up with you. However, if their answer is that they rarely go on a date unless they feel a connection with the person, then this will help to ease your mind.
Do you fancy meeting up again?
If the date has gone well and you feel like you connected well as a couple, then why not hedge your bets and see if a second date is on the cards? Although it would seem an easier option to send a text message after the date has finished to save any embarrassment, it will appear far more confident and sincere if you ask your date for another date before you leave. By telling your date the place, time, and activity of your next encounter; it can have you both looking forward to seeing each other again.