How to Communicate With Your Lover About Sex...
If you ever read agony aunt columns, there's one piece of advice that you're sure to see - 'communicate'. However, this is not always easy. Most people have their own insecurities, hang-ups and triggers, and sex is a particularly loaded topic. No one wants to think of themselves as bad in bed, after all.
Managed properly, sexual communication is one of the best ways to build a bond with your lover. It's something unique that only the two of you share. It's a sexy secret and a benefit of being in a loving relationship. While you may feel embarrassed, if you know someone well enough to have sex, you also know them well enough to talk about it: truly sharing your body with a lover also entails sharing your mind.
All too often, sexual communication is about sharing negative experiences: "I don't like the way you touch my breasts," or "I don't want to have sex tonight." However, by making sexual communication a natural part of your relationship, you can balance this negativity with compliments.
Tell your lover when they arouse you. If you find yourself reminiscing about a particularly hot time together fondly, tell your lover. After you try something new in the bedroom, ask your lover if it was enjoyable, and share your own feelings about the experience. By genuinely praising your lover's prowess on a regular basis, you'll help them feel less defensive when you try to hone or correct their less pleasurable explorations.