Learn our erotic massage basics...
Sensual massage is a skill that's well worth learning as it can be used at almost every stage of a relationship. From giving a scalp massage or foot rub to seduce a potential partner to altogether more intimate caresses, massage can relax and arouse a lover in equal measure.
Start by making sure the room is warm - there's only one type of shiver you want to elicit, and as people relax their body temperature decreases so even if you're both keeping your clothes on, it will make the experience more comfortable. Have warm towels to hand to cover the parts of your lover's body that you're not massaging. If you're going for a full body massage, sharing a bath together first will help the muscles relax and set a sensual mood.
Don't use massage oil if you want to have sex as it can break condoms. Instead, there are numerous lubes designed for massage, which will help your fingers move over your lover's skin more easily.
Unless you've studied massage professionally, don't press into any bones as this can be dangerous. Instead, focus on the large muscles of the back, thighs and buttocks. Start with smooth 'effleurage' strokes - circular caresses with the fingertips or palms.
If you find any particularly tense areas, either ease them out slowly or, if they're stubborn, use 'petrissage' - kneading the muscles, using your knuckles for particularly tight areas. Start gently and build up pressure gradually, checking your lover is comfortable regularly.