There’s no need to be embarrassed about the prospect of owning a vibrator. In fact, they can be an incredibly fun and exciting way to spice things up in the bedroom, whether you’re in a relationship or not. But to get the best from your new toy, it’s important to know exactly how to use it and to find the right product for you. In this article, we’re going to help you reach the ‘big O’ with the help of your vibrator, and share with you some top tips on how to use your sex toy to achieve maximum pleasure.
Pick the Right Vibrator
A recent survey of the British public showed that almost 3,000,000 of us own a vibrator (Daily Express, 2017). If you’re interested in purchasing a new sex toy, it’s clear you’re not alone, and as sex toys become less and less taboo, it’s much more accepted to chat about sex and the aids that help us climax.
The first thing you need to know about using a vibrator is that choosing the correct one for you is hugely important. Something too big will cause discomfort, something too small won’t have the impact you’re desperately searching for. There are a range of different materials, colours and functions to choose from, depending on your preferences.
With so many vibrators on the market, it can be difficult to wade through the large number of products to find that holy grail: the sex toy that feels like it’s been made just for you. It’s important to read reviews, do as much research online as you can and speak to friends about their experiences to make sure you get everything just right.
For those new to the sex toy market, the 9.1cm Durex Teasing Touch Stroker Vibrator is designed with increasing speeds and an array of sensual pulse patterns. Plus, its discreet size makes it less intimidating than some other products on the market and the included carry case means you needn’t feel embarrassed by popping it in your purse.
As much as vibrators do a lot of the work for you, it is still a manual process that requires a little effort if you want to achieve a full orgasm.
Test it Properly
Once you’ve chosen the right vibrator for you, it’s well-worth taking some time to explore the many different ways in which to use it. Try out some of the different settings for instance, change the speed to see what works for you. A thorough test should help you gain confidence and ensure a pleasurable experience each and every time you use it.
If you’re nervous, it’s also ideal to use a sex toy with your partner for an adventurous foreplay session that’s sure to get you both excited. If you’re confident enough to let your partner take control, allow them to use the vibrator on your body, this then helps lend a new dynamic to your intimacy.
The key to using a vibrator properly is to pay close attention to what you find enjoyable. Don’t just rely on the sex toy alone to bring you to climax; thoughts and erotica are just as important in getting you to the end. When you start to feel aroused, perhaps try the vibrator on its lowest setting, gradually increasing the speed the more comfortable you become.
Use it on All Areas of Your Body
As much as vibrators do a lot of the work for you, it is still a manual process that requires a little effort if you want to achieve a full orgasm. Every person is different so we’re not going to tell you to follow a set pattern of positioning but it’s worth noting that in certain areas it my feel too powerful and will be more irritating than pleasurable.
If this is the case, change the speed setting or move it to another part of your body. Don’t be pressured into thinking that you have to use it on your genitals immediately, may sex toys can be used to stimulate numerous parts of the body. If you’ve decided to invest in a massager, these can be used all over the body as well as on your partner, providing a deep and powerful sensation.
The neck is particularly susceptible to touch, being a known erogenous zone on the body. Take advantage of this by laying on your bed and slowly gliding the sex toy on its lowest setting up and down each side of your neck. This may sound bizarre, but avoiding your clitoris may pay dividends in the end. It sounds ridiculous doesn’t it? Avoiding the part of your body that proves to be one of the most sensitive – but that’s exactly why. Many women have found through the use of sex toys that stimulating the clitoris too much with a vibrator can cause some discomfort.
In fact, it may be worth indirectly stimulating the clitoris from above or even from the side to achieve a similar effect but without that unnecessary irritation. The more you get used to your new vibrator, the more you may find that directly stimulating the clitoris is your thing; it’s all about investigation.
Using a vibrator is an intense and often unusual process for the first few attempts, but after finding out what works for you, you’ll start to wonder how on earth you survived without it. Enjoy.
Daily Express, 2017, Can You Guess How Many Britons Own A Sex Toy?