So it’s your first time? Emotions will be running high, sexual tension will be fully charged and the perfectly natural what-if-I-get-it-wrong self-doubts will be flooding to the front of your mind. Yes, first time sex really is a big deal, mentally and physically; but it doesn’t need to live up to the ‘quick and awkward’ or even ‘painful’ rep it’s been given over time. Learn how to ace beginner sex with our top 5 sex positions to help first time sex go a whole lot sexier.
1. The Missionary
Although admittedly sometimes seen as the tamest of them all, the missionary position has huge appeal for many couples and is most definitely a great place to start. With the woman lying on her back and the man on top, resting his weight on his elbows, it is generally the easiest position for first timers as entry is the most natural this way. With you both being face to face, you can feel completely connected and intimate, with lots of eye contact and opportunities for kissing. Lubrication is important to ensure that penetration is not painful, therefore you might like to try some extra lube for your first few times in The Missionary.
2. Girl on Top
For many women this is a great first time position as it allows her to stay in control of the speed and depth of penetration – meaning she can find out what suits her, at her own pace. It’s also thought to be the position most likely for her to achieve the ‘Big O’ as she is taking care of it herself. Plus, it’s always a winner for the guys too – they get to lie back and enjoy the view!
3. On the Edge
This is another straightforward move physically, and not a million miles away from the missionary. The woman rests on her back at the edge of the bed with her legs hanging off, while the man steps back from the bed and places his body between her legs. The woman’s pelvis is raised much higher with this move than in the missionary position and penetration could feel a lot deeper. It can be a very relaxing position for women because they can lie back while their partner does most of the work. (Sorry boys).
4. The Dragon
In this position, the woman lies on her stomach with one or two pillows under her pelvis while her partner lies on top of her, mimicking her position and entering from behind. This position is much slower and rhythmic, with circular motions rather than the usual faster, thrusting movements. It is good for beginners as it allows you to experience the sensation of sex without deep cervical penetration which can be uncomfortable for some women during their first few times.
5. The Spoon
This is a great first time sex position, especially for those who are especially shy or nervous. The woman should lay on her side and her partner lie behind her, entering her from behind. It can also be an extremely intimate and romantic position, with your partner holding you the whole time, and allows for a lot of interaction and touching of the important female erogenous zones. First time sex is a hugely psychological experience and feeling relaxed and connected helps remove many of the anxieties which can undermine sexual arousal.
Whichever position you go with, remember no one is born a sex god – it’s only by trying different positions that you will find out what works for you and your partner. The most important thing is to enjoy it and feel relaxed throughout.