Oral sex for men comes very high up in the popularity stakes; however, when it comes to oral sex for women, many men are put off by the fact that they might not get it right and many women are put off as they feel shy or embarrassed, even with a long term partner.
Here we look at ways in which to make oral sex feel better so that you can both enjoy the experience together.
1. Get comfortable
It can take much longer for a woman to climax during oral sex than it can during penetrative sex. Therefore before you start, make sure that you are both in a comfortable position which you feel relaxed in. Pillows, cushions and duvets arranged around her body can all help make the experience more relaxing, allowing you the opportunity to experiment with different angles and props to see what works for you.
2. Don’t focus on the orgasm
Both men and women are guilty of concentrating too much on the end goal (the orgasm) than actually enjoying the journey to it, which sometimes can spoil the act completely. Women can often be worried about the length of time it is taking them to climax and hence get nervous that their partner is getting bored. Whilst men worry that their partner is not climaxing because they are not enjoying what he is doing, despite her enjoying every minute of it. The important thing is to concentrate on relaxing and enjoying the intimate closeness even if she or you don’t climax at all.
3. Listen to her
During oral sex on a woman the full attention is on her, meaning that her partner’s whole mission is to pleasure her and ensure that she enjoys every minute. For this reason, it is important that she gives him vocal cues on the bits she is enjoying the most so that he knows where to concentrate his efforts. He should also pay attention to her body language, her breathe and how her hips are positioned, which could all give clues as to how much she is enjoying it.
If her hips are rotating in a circular motion or lifting off from the bed then chances are she is hugely turned on and getting lots of pleasure. However, if her legs are squeezing together and her bottom is pushing down tightly to the bed, it might be a sign that something is not comfortable and therefore a cue to try something different.
4. Try a lube
If you want a little help to get your partner to climax, then you could try an orgasm enhancing gel which uses a unique combination of ingredients to heighten the sensitivity of the clitoris. You could massage this onto her before commencing oral sex. Alternatively you could use your tongue to work a flavoured lube onto her. Make sure to try something sweet such as strawberry or cherry and enjoy the taste and sights of pleasuring your partner.
5. Tease with a sex toy
Although the man’s mouth and tongue are the main pleasure-givers during oral sex, there are no rules that say he can’t have a little bit of help along the way. Vibrators and intimate massagers can make the experience much more fun and enjoyable for both parties. He could use the toy to stimulate her clitoris, whilst he explores the other areas of her vagina, and then swop over so that the vibrator is inside her, whilst he pays attention to her clitoris.