How to try anal for the first time

So, you’ve had the chat and you’ve both agreed… It's time to try some anal play. But this is just the first step. So here are some things to know for your first time to help make it as smooth an experience as possible.

TIP 1: TALK IT OUT

Chat things through with your partner before you take your clothes off. Establish what you both want. Maybe think of a safe word if that’s something you feel you want. But most of all, make sure you’re on the same page. 

TIP 2: PREP THE ANUS

Once you and your partner have decided you both want to try anal, the receiver may want to try some anal dilation exercises using an anal dilator to train the sphincter muscles to easily relax and loosen up to help make the experience comfortable.

TIP 3: CLEAN YOUR ASS

Feel clean, feel confident.

TIP 4: START WITH FOREPLAY

This applies for any sex. Don’t just dive in. Savour the moment. 

TIP 5: TAKE IT SLOW

What’s the rush? If this is your first time, start small and slow and work your way up. Maybe ease in with a small vibrating anal toy. The receiving partner should start out in the driver’s seat so they can control the speed and depth of penetration.

TIP 6: LUBE UP

Toy, penis or finger - lube it up. This is a no-brainer; sex feels better with lubeUse any Durex water-based lubes. Check out our lube range HERE.

TIP 7: USE PROTECTION 

If you’ll allow us to get a little un-sexy for a moment, anal tissue is fragile, so it’s best to be safe and wear a condom. Just make sure you avoid using silicone-based lubes when using silicone-based toys or condoms. You can choose your perfect condom HERE.

TIP 8: USE TOYS 

You may want to start experimenting with toys solo before doing anal with a partner to train the related muscles and prepare the area for penetration. A small plug like our Deep & Deeper can be a great introduction to anal.

TIP 9: KEEP TALKING

You shouldn’t just communicate at the start, you should communicate throughout the whole process as well as afterwards – see what worked, what didn’t and talk about whether you want to do it again. Plenty of people love it, but anal sex isn’t for everyone. You should feel comfortable exploring your body and your preferences while learning from new experiences.

Always read the instructions.

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