The Dos and Don'ts of Shower Sex

We’ve all thought about it, haven’t we? Having sex with a date or loved one in the shower is the stuff of movies. After all, it’s been part of many an erotic film over the decades. But is shower sex as easy and sexy as it looks?

In this guide, we’ll look at what you need to know before engaging in shower sex with your lover or partner.

Couple embracing and kissing under a shower

Do Put the Heating On

Sounds silly doesn’t it? We’ve all had that experience of being in a nice warm shower and bracing ourselves for the cold air that awaits once the water stops flowing. Naturally, when there are two… or more (we won’t judge) individuals in the shower at once, moving into that cold stream of air is more likely.

The shock will always be there but limit it by turning on your heating beforehand. This way, you’ll be slightly warmer should you momentarily be without warm water during your sexual experience.

Don’t Use the Soap

There are two things to be sure of in life. The sun will rise in the morning and soap is slippery. Naturally then, if you’re trying to get intimate in the shower, soap is the last thing you want to be dealing with.

This isn’t some cheesy Saturday night television comedy after all, slipping and sliding all over the place thanks to a pesky bar of soap. You’re trying to be sexy, sultry and engaging in maximum pleasure. Therefore, take our advice and ditch the soap while you’re trying out shower sex.

Shower gel is great for getting us nice and clean before a big night out, but it does not make a lube substitute. Don’t even go there. The same goes for shampoo and conditioner. It’s a no from us.

Do Pick the Right Lube

It’s probably a question you’ve never asked: “what is the best lube for the shower?” Well, you’ll be glad we’re answering it for you as there is definitely a fine art in picking the right shower lube. Yes, even in the shower you may want a little help to make sure you’re lubed up to a comfortable degree.

The problem arises when picking a lubricant. Whether you wish to use water-based lube or a silicone-based product, due to the very nature of the shower, you may need to reapply lubrication more frequently than you would in the dry. After all, water is not a substitute for lube and the comfort, pleasure and safety of both you and your lover are the most important parts of sex.

Safety First: Be aware of any spillages. Lube may be fun while you’re having sex, but it doesn’t mix well with smooth surfaces like shower cubicles and baths. Be sure to clean up any lube spillages or you might need a trip to A&E. Try explaining how you got your concussion to the nurses.

Don’t Be Afraid to Say No

We aren’t going to suggest that having sex in the shower is easy to perfect the first time around. It isn’t. If you’re trying it out and find that it really isn’t for you then don’t be afraid to say no.

Take it to the bedroom and enjoy your time together there, rather than trying to make it work in the bathroom. There’s always the opportunity to try it again once you’re feeling a little more adventurous.

Do Use Condoms

Remember to always practice safe sex and use a condom as keeping safe during intercourse is absolutely the most important aspect of sex. Even in the shower, where admittedly it may be more difficult to apply, a condom should be used. It’s worth remembering that you should apply the condom before the penis becomes wet to avoid it slipping off.

For sex in the shower, any of our condom collection is suitable, just ensure you have a secure, yet comfortable fit before engaging in any sexual activity! Take our Find my Condom quiz to get the right condom for you. 

Shower Sex Positions

Creative sex positions are perfect for those looking to spice up their sex life. Whether you’re in something casual or a long-term relationship, these sex positions, shower positions if you will, are sure to fun and challenging at the same time.

Beginner: Doggy Style

We’ll start off relatively easy. After gaining a good footing, place your palms against the shower wall, leaning forward slightly to allow your partner to enter you from behind. It works well because there’s security against the wall and against your partner. Perfect for shower sex novices.

Advanced: The Hot Seat

If you’re lucky enough to have a seat or bench inside your shower, you should take advantage of it. Ask your partner to sit down as you lower yourself down on top of him. You can either do this facing each other or away from each other. Don’t do this on something less sturdy, like the side of a bath for instance, it won’t end well.

Lead with our advice and you’ll not only have a great time, but you’ll spare yourself the embarrassment of having to deal with a trip to your local hospital too. These tips are ideal if you’re having a weekend away in a hotel that provides you with a lovely big shower room.

But, if you’re nervous about trying shower sex but still want to have the experience, if you’re blessed with a wide enough bath, this could be the ideal alternative. Have fun!