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The Dos and Don'ts of Shower Sex


We’ve all thought about it, haven’t we? Having sex in the shower with a partner sounds like something straight out of a movie. But is shower sex as easy as it looks?

If you’re wondering how to have shower sex, or you’re in need of some expert shower sex tips, in this guide we’ll cover everything you need to know to set you on the path to shower sex greatness.

1. Do put the heating on

Sounds silly doesn’t it? We’ve all had the experience of being in a nice warm shower and bracing ourselves for the cold air that awaits once the water stops flowing. Naturally, when there are two people in the shower at once, getting bumped into that cold stream of air becomes much more likely.

Crank the heating up to ensure the bathroom is cosy throughout. This way, if you do find yourself away from the warm shower water, you won’t freeze.

2. Don’t use soap

If there's one thing that everyone knows about soap, it's that it’s slippery. Naturally then, if you’re trying to get it on in the shower, soap is the last thing you want to be dealing with.

Similarly, shower gel is great for getting nice and clean before a big night out, but it does not make a substitute for lube. The same goes for shampoo and conditioner, don’t even go there!

3. Do pick the right lube

Yes, that’s right, even in the shower you may want a little help to keep things moving. After all, water is not a substitute for lube, and the comfort, pleasure and safety of you and your partner is important.

Whether you want to use water-based lube or a silicone-based product, you’ll need to reapply more frequently when using it in in the shower than you would in a dry environment such as the bedroom.

However, it is very important to be aware of any spillages. Lube may be fun while you’re getting it on, but it doesn’t mix well with smooth surfaces like shower cubicles and baths. Stay on the lookout for any spillages.

4. Don’t stress too much

Having sex in the shower probably isn’t going to be easy or perfect the first time around. If you’re trying it out and find that it really isn’t working for you, then don’t be afraid to move somewhere else.

Take it to the bedroom (or another room) and enjoy your time together there rather than trying to make it work in the bathroom when it just isn’t happening. There’s always the option to try it again when you’re feeling a little more adventurous.

5. Do use condoms in the shower

Remember it’s always important to practise safe sex – if a condom is your chosen form of contraception, be certain to use one even for shower sex. Admittedly, it may be more difficult to put a condom on in the shower, so why not put the condom on before the penis becomes wet to avoid it slipping off?

Do condoms work in water?

Yes, condoms do work in water however, the risk of condom slippage during sex may increase when used in such circumstances.

Can you use condoms in the shower?

For shower sex, any of our condoms are suitable, just ensure you have a secure, yet comfortable fit before engaging in any sexual activity.

Unsure what size condom is the best for you? Check out our condom size chart

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6. Do try these shower sex positions

Shower sex positions are fun and challenging at the same time, our recommended shower sex positions require good balance so be extra careful that you don’t slip when putting them into practise. If you are concerned about slippages, then use of a non-slip mat on the floor of the shower can be a great way to settle any nerves.

Here are our top 4 positions for sex in the shower:

Beginner: Standing Doggy Style

After gaining a good footing, place your palms against the shower wall, leaning forward slightly to allow your partner to enter you from behind. It works well because there’s security against the wall and against your partner – perfect for shower sex novices.

Beginner: The Wraparound

Stand with your back against the shower cubicle with your partner standing up facing you. Lift one leg and wrap it around your partner’s waist – they can hold your leg for support and put their other hand on your waist to support you further.

Advanced: The Hot Seat

If you’re lucky enough to have a seat or bench inside your shower, take advantage of it! Ask your partner to sit down, as you lower yourself down on top of them. You can either do this facing each other or away from each other. Don’t try this on something less sturdy, like the side of a bath for instance - it might not end well!

Advanced: Lift and Carry

As you stand facing each other, get your partner to lift you up as you wrap your legs around their waist. As they support you with their hands under your bum or around your waist, you can lean back against the shower cubicle as you move together. Always practice this position on dry land before attempting it in the shower.

These shower sex tips are ideal if you’re on a weekend away in a hotel with a lovely big shower room. If you’re nervous about trying shower sex but still want to have the experience and you are blessed with a big enough bath, this could be an ideal alternative.

Are you looking for more exciting sex positions to try out around the home? Check out guide for places to have sex outside the bedroom.




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