Oral sex may seem commonplace and a normal part of foreplay to most but, for those who have never given a blow job before, it can be quite a daunting and intimidating prospect. If you fall into that second category, we are sure you have loads of questions about oral for him.

Want to know more about fellatio or in need advice? No question is a silly question, we’re here to help! So, what exactly is fellatio? Where did it come from, and how can you get better at giving fellatio?

What does fellatio mean?

We’ve alluded to this already but, the term fellatio is the technical term for blow jobs or oral for him. It’s important to note though, that fellatio specifically refers to oral for him, and shouldn’t be confused with cunnilingus (oral sex for her). To put it plainly, fellatio means the act of stimulating a man’s penis with your mouth.

Where did fellatio originate?

This is a tricky one. Although there is anecdotal evidence throughout history of fellatio being a standard sexual practice, it’s hard to pin down exactly where the act originated. It may even be the case that, behind closed doors, fellatio has always been a part of sex.

What is certain, however, is that the act of fellatio is not confined to one or two cultures or civilisations; oral for him is something that appears to be prevalent across the globe. Essentially, if you are thinking about trying fellatio for the first time, you can rest assured that you are not the first and you certainly won’t be the last person to do it!

How to perform fellatio

Want to give fellatio a go but a bit unsure where to start? Let’s begin with the basics. Before you decide to try giving your partner oral sex, make sure you are completely comfortable with trying it. There is nothing wrong with being nervous, but if you feel like you are not on board with the idea of giving fellatio, then don’t do it!

Another really important consideration for fellatio is safety. Sure, you’re not going to be getting pregnant from giving your partner fellatio, but STIs are still a very real concern. Make sure you both have been tested and have a clean bill of health. Remember, if in doubt, always use a condom.

Right, you’re ready to try giving your partner oral and you have checked it’s all safe, all that’s left is to get on with the act itself. If you’re a complete fellatio newbie, this might be where your anxiety lays. Fear not, we’ve got you covered. Check out our 5-step guide on how to give fellatio now to settle your nerves and get yourself fully prepared.

man laughing

How to perform deepthroat fellatio

If you’re a complete newcomer when it comes to oral for him, then this section likely isn’t for you. However, if you feel you’ve now mastered the basics and want to step your fellatio game up, then you are in the right place. Let’s look at the sensuous world of deepthroat fellatio.

So, what exactly do we mean when say ‘deepthroat’? Well, it’s a simple concept, it’s the execution of the concept that can be a little tricky. To deepthroat your partner during fellatio means to take the entire length of their penis into your mouth by using your throat to accommodate the business end.

Sound difficult? That’s because it can be. It’s not something you can simply rush into doing, you will probably need a lot of practice before you get the hang of it. For this reason, we would not recommend even attempting it for your first time. If you are wanting to develop the skill, it’s best building it up over time with your partner.

How to make fellatio more enjoyable

Let’s be honest here, you may have successfully come to the end of your first sucking session and found that it just isn’t for you. Guess what - and we can’t stress this enough - it really doesn’t matter! If giving fellatio isn’t something you want to do again, there’s plenty of other things you can do in the bedroom to please your partner.

It may be the case, however, that you enjoyed pleasuring your partner with some fellatio, but you just found the taste a little off-putting. If this is the case, we have the perfect solution to make fellatio more enjoyable; introduce some flavoured lube into the equation and you can really change the game.

durex cheeky cheery flavoured lube

Our Cheeky Cherry flavoured lube, for example, will bring the sumptuous taste of cherry into the bedroom. Once you’ve applied some to your partner’s penis, not only will fellatio be exciting and pleasurable for him, but you’ll now have the delicious taste of cherries to make the whole experience all the more enjoyable for you too!

 

Want to know more about all things sex? Head over to our Explore Sex blog now where we discuss everything from erectile dysfunction to phone sex. Perhaps you want to give fellatio with a condom and your partner needs help finding the perfect fit? Check out our Condom Buying Guide to get you started.

 

RB-M-14596

Similar Articles

What You Need To Know About Sexual Performance Anxiety

What is sexual performance anxiety? In our guide to sexual performance anxiety, we look at the symptoms, causes and treatment.
Read more