Whether you've always wanted to try it with your partner, or aren’t particularly fussed, anal sex is one of the most misunderstood and unnecessarily taboo sex subjects out there.
If you're looking to spice things up in the bedroom, or simply want to try something new, introducing anal play into your sex life can be a revelation.
Just remember, it is always important to discuss things with your partner beforehand. This way you can ensure you’re both on the same page and know what to expect from each other.
With that being said, here are 5 things you need to know about anal sex before taking the plunge:
1. Start slowly
Number one in our anal sex rules; start slowly. Whether it's your first time or you're a seasoned pro, preparing for anal sex is key.
To help get you started, make sure that you are fully relaxed. Once relaxed, have your partner start with a finger or a slim sex toy to help you get acquainted with the feeling.
As your anal canal is very tight, the ring of muscle needs to be relaxed to allow something to pass through it. Performing the act without using a lubricant can be a painful experience, if not done correctly.
2. You need lots of lube
Unlike the vagina, the anus cannot naturally self-lubricate and therefore needs plenty of lube to make anal sex easier and help keep intimacy with your partner more pleasurable. However, drying up midway can cause pain and tearing of the anal tissue if lube is not re-applied. We therefore recommend you use plenty and often.
If you need to take several breaks along the way to re-apply lube, don't fret as this will give you and your partner time to reassure one another that things are going well.
If you are looking for a lube that needs less reapplications during your lovemaking session, try a silicone-based lubricant.
Worried that you're using too much lube and don't want to ruin your sheets? Add a towel before you start and make sure that you have the lubricant on hand. A water-based lube will also work well but may need to be reapplied more frequently.
3. You can catch an STD
The biggest risk of anal intercourse is the transmissions of STIs between you and your partner. From chlamydia to HIV, anything that you can contract vaginally and orally can also get in your anus.
As the anal tissue is unable to produce lubrication, it is more likely to get tiny tears during sex; this can allow bacteria to enter your body more easily. Not only does this put you and your partner at a higher risk for contracting a sexually transmitted infection than vaginal sex, the symptoms of an infection may go unnoticed. To help decrease transmission while enjoying your partner, always use a condom.
4. Muscle weakness
Since your anal muscles are built to keep things in, constant use of the muscles can cause it to stretch and weaken the surrounding tissue. If you notice this happen don't fret, muscles can be strengthened.
5. Watch your diet
Eating foods packed in fibre can help impact the degree of comfort and pleasure you receive during anal sex with your partner. Fibre is a great resource in helping clear the contents of your digestive system while helping pass stool through the body.
Always stay safe
Anal sex doesn’t need to have such a stigma attached to it. After all, for those that love it, it can be an incredibly pleasurable experience. It’s important to be as comfortable as possible before engaging in anal sex and be sure your lover or you wear a condom with plenty of lubricant.
It’s also important to remember that lubes should always be checked to see if they are safe for anal sex and if they are compatible with condoms. Always read the instructive information on the pack when trying any new product to avoid any uncertainty.