Whether you've always wanted to try it with your partner or aren’t particularly fussed, anal sex is one of the most misunderstood and taboo subjects. If you're looking to spice things up in the bedroom or want to try something new, here are 5 things you need to know about anal sex:
There are thousands of nerve endings in and around your anus which can provide you maximum pleasure. Most of these nerve endings are concentrated around the opening and outer part of the rectum. Whether it's your first time or you're a seasoned pro, preparing for anal sex is key.
To help get you started, make sure that you are fully relaxed. Once relaxed, have your partner start with a finger or a slim sex toy to help you get acquainted with the feeling. As your anal canal is very tight, the ring of muscle needs to be relaxed to allow something to pass through it. Performing the act without using a silicone-based lubricant can be a painful experience, if not done correctly.
You Need Lots of Lube
Unlike the vagina, the anus cannot naturally self-lubricate and therefore needs plenty of lube to help keep intimacy with your partner more pleasurable. However, drying up midway can cause pain and tearing of the anal tissue if lube is not re-applied. If you need to take several breaks along the way to re-apply lube, don't fret as this will give you and your partner time to reassure one another that things are going well.
If you are looking for a lube that well help prolong your lovemaking session, try a silicone-based lubricant. Worried that you're using too much lube and don't want to ruin your sheets? Add a towel before you start and make sure that you have the lubricant on hand. A water-based lube will also work well but may need to be reapplied more frequently.
You Can Catch an STD
The biggest risk of anal sex is the transmissions of STIs between you and your partner. From chlamydia to HIV, anything that you can contract vaginally and orally can also get in your anus.
As the anal tissue is unable to produce lubrication, it is more likely to get tiny tears during sex; this can allow bacteria to enter your body more easily. Not only does this put you and your partner at a higher risk for contracting a sexually transmitted infection than vaginal sex, the symptoms of an infection may go unnoticed. To help decrease transmission while enjoying your partner, always used a condom.
Since your anal muscles are built to keep things in, constant use of the muscles can cause it to stretch and weaken the surrounding tissue. If you notice this happen don't fret, muscles can be strengthened. Not only are kegels helpful in tightening muscles they can help prepare you for anal sex; making intimacy with your partner even more pleasurable.
Watch your Diet
Eating foods packed in fibre can help impact the degree of comfort and pleasure you receive during anal sex with your partner. Fibre is a great resource in helping clear the content of your stomach while helping pass stool through the body. If you don't have enough fibre in your diet, you may have a hard time going to the bathroom which can cause muscle strain while causing discomfort. To make the most of your time in the bedroom, make sure to eat foods that are rich in fibre.
Anal sex doesn’t need to have such a stigma attached to it. After all, for those that love it, it can be an incredibly pleasurable experience. It’s important to be as comfortable as possible before engaging in anal sex and be sure your lover or you wear a condom and use plenty of lubricant.