Men and women with disabilities are often perceived as fragile and need protection from the world. However, those with disabilities experience the same desire for pleasure, love and physical connection.
Every disability is different and can affect a couple differently.
Sex can be spontaneous
No one wants to have sex the same way every time. While some conditions may cause some restrictions, that should not take away from the fun of enjoying one another. Whether it’s a flirtatious text message before you see them, or changing the location of where you have sex, adding a bit of spontaneity to your bedroom activities can keep the fire burning long after the deed is done.
Incorporating foreplay can be a great way to add a level of excitement to your intimate sessions. From kissing to caressing one another, foreplay serves a physical and emotional purpose which is important for comfortable intercourse. Ask your partner what they enjoy and stimulate those areas which your lips, mouth, and hands. Paying attention to what turns you and your partner on not only heightens your experience, but can leave you both feeling sexually satisfied.
You can add toys
Depending on the disability that you or your partner may have, several erogenous zones may respond to different stimuli. For some, it may be a sensual kiss to the ears, neck or breasts; while other may find caresses to their back or stomach just as pleasurable. To add a fun element to your lovemaking session, adding a sex toy can be a great way to add an additional sensory layer. Whether you decide to use a bullet vibrator for an erotic massage or a massager to give extra stimulation to your clitoris.
Share your concerns
Asking questions about sex can be uncomfortable for anyone. However, for those with a disability, it can be especially difficult. If you are worried that a certain position may leave them uncomfortable or maybe you want to try a new position that might feel funny or amazing, openly talk to your partner about your concerns. Not only will this alleviate any fears that you both may have, but it will strengthen your bond and make intimacy that more enjoyable.
Don’t assume that you or your partner’s disability shields you from becoming pregnant or catching a sexually transmitted infection. Whether you’ve been with your partner for a while or just started a new relationship, using a condom not only helps ease your worries, but can help bring you two even closer together.