What Is The Female G-Spot? Is It Real? How Does It Feel?
Trust us when we say, the female g-spot is worth searching for. A somewhat mysterious conundrum that leave many of us wondering if it is even real, we have compiled our top tips and information all about the female g-spot so that you can please yourself, or your lover, with earth-shattering experiences.
What is the G-Spot?
The female G-spot is an ‘erotic zone’ that women have in their bodies, that when stimulated provides a sensation that most people find extremely pleasing. The female g-spot is located in the vagina as part of the female clitoral network.
And you can thank German gynaecologist Ernst Gräfenberg, who was one of the first doctors to describe the area in 1950 (although it was also reported on as far back as the 17th century by a Dutch physician), for this wonderful piece of anatomical research.
Theoretically, the G-spot is a patch of flesh about the size of a 10 pence piece, located around 1 to 3 inches up inside the vagina on the front of the vaginal wall (the part closest to the stomach). Some may say that the tissue here feels different to the surrounding area – a little thicker, ridged, or slightly rougher to the touch – and that it plumps up when rubbed or when they’re aroused.
Various scientific studies have been conducted over the decades to try to determine what the G-spot really is, and what its function is. Some research suggests that it is part of the ‘urethral sponge’: a fleshy cushion of tissue surrounding the female urethra (or ‘pee pipe’, in layman’s terms) that becomes swollen with blood when a woman is turned on, squeezing the pipe in order to prevent her from accidentally urinating during sex.
Other recent investigations propose that the G-spot is actually incorporated within a much larger structure called the ‘clitourethrovaginal complex’ – or ‘CUV’ for short; these studies argue that the clitoris isn’t just a little ‘nub’ on the outside of the body, but in fact has internal ‘branches’ or ‘bulbs’ that extend down inside the walls of the vagina, and that it is these that can make the G-spot area feel extra sensitive. Perhaps the ‘G’ in ‘G-spot’ should stand for ‘we’re still G-uessing’!
Debate continues amongst scientists and specialists about the G-spot’s true identity and purpose. However, whatever the truth is behind this mysterious ‘magic button’, it is certain that stimulating that point on the vaginal wall can have a big, brilliant, blissful impact on many women.
Where is the G-Spot?
The female g spot is apparently located between 1 to 3 inches up the front facing vaginal wall.
To try to find your G-spot on your own, first smooth a pearl or two of lubricant like Durex Play Feel onto your index finger, slide it into your vagina, then curl the tip towards your belly button, as though you’re beckoning someone to ‘come hither’. Rub your finger slowly back and forth, side to side, and in circling motions, paying attention to how your insides feel and respond; if you find a patch that seems puffier, harder, bumpier or ridged, you may well be in the right place. Insert your middle finger as well, if you like a fuller feeling.
What happens when I hit the G-Spot?
Women will feel different sensations when their G-Spot is stimulated. It may feel super sensitive; it may send a ‘quivering’ sensation through your body or it may feel similar to what you feel when your clitoris is stimulated.
If you are wondering what will happen when you hit your partner’s G-Spot, don’t expect an immediate reaction such as ejaculation or ‘squirting’. These are things that are portrayed in the media and pornography; the G-Spot is a delicate area that needs to be treated gently but thoroughly to help a woman reach her ultimate climax.
How can I stimulate my G-Spot?
Lots of women find they like fairly intense pressure on the G-spot, so once you have found your own g-spot, try to relax into it. Experiment with pressing a little harder in that area and try a tapping motion, which can feel great. You may also want to try using your other hand to press down on the outside of your tummy, around the ‘mons pubis’, where your public hair starts to grow – this can push on the G-spot from the outside of the body (this is a great trick to use during sex, too!).
Sex toys can be a supremely useful – and insanely pleasurable – way to target the G-spot and help you enter the moan zone. Vibrators such as the Durex Thrilling Touch Stroker Vibrator can help you to reach places you may not be able to yourself. Slick on some water-based lube and angle the toy so that it bends towards your stomach. Test out different vibration speeds and patterns and try thrusting one of our vibrators back and forth in addition.
How can my partner stimulate my G-spot?
Your partner can try to find your G-spot using their hands or a vibrator, as well – the same rules apply about using that ‘beckoning’ gesture, paying attention to tissue texture and experimenting with the speed, pressure and motion of their touch. You could simply lay on your back while they play with you or give a ‘doggy style’ position a whirl. Try crouching on all fours while your lover inserts a lubricated finger or toy from behind allows them to easily press forwards and down on that special stretch of the vaginal wall.
Tell your partner what feels good
As ever, communication is key: you shouldn’t be afraid to tell your lover if you want them to massage you faster, slower, more softly, or with more intensity. Try encouraging them by combining your requests with some positive feedback, so they don’t feel too disheartened by criticism, e.g. “Ooh, I love that – when you touch me really lightly it’s amazing!’. Sex talk can be a turn-on for both of you.
Both of you should try not to get too frustrated if finding the G-spot is causing a spot of bother; as discussed, this region works differently for different women, and some will naturally find it more mind-blowing than others. The best sex is the sex that works for you, so if you’re both having a good time, consider your mission a success!
Stimulating the female G-Spot during sex
It’s also possible to stimulate the G-spot during penetration. Using ribbed condoms such as Durex Pleasure Me or Durex Mutual Climax can help, as can sex positions like the ‘Raised Missionary’. This is standard man-on-top missionary sex, except the woman places a pillow beneath her hips or bottom to tilt her pelvis upwards, meaning his penis rubs against that key area.
Sex from behind tends to hit the G-spot well too, especially if she drops the front of her body low while keeping her bottom high in the air. If the woman is on top, facing her lover – the ‘Cowgirl’ position – she may well discover sensational G-spot stimulation if she leans backwards (not too far though, as this can bend his shaft uncomfortably).
Female ejaculation from stimulating the G-Spot
A large number say that pressing and caressing it feels intensely delicious, and can bring them to climax, sometimes in a way that feels ‘deeper’ and different to an orgasm obtained by stimulating the clitoris alone. Others swear that G-spot stimulation can trigger female ejaculation – itself a hotly contested subject, but an act that involves fluid being expelled from the genital area; in some cases, just a few drops, in others a more dramatic ‘squirt’ or ‘gush’.
There also are women who state that stroking the G-spot makes them feel as though they’re going to wee, although sometimes ‘pushing through’ that initial sensation ends up with them orgasming.
How do I make myself or my female partner "squirt"?
“Squirting” is often the word used to describe when a female has an orgasm and ejaculates, producing a liquid that seems to “squirt” from the vagina. Although this is something that can happen, not everybody will ejaculate in this way, so if it doesn’t happen it does not mean that you have not had an orgasm or ejaculated.
As discussed above, some women may feel like they need to pee when they are about to ejaculate. This is because it comes out of the urethra, so often when you feel like you need to pee this could be because you are about to release and ejaculate.
According to an estimate by the International Society for Sexual Medicine, only 10-50% of women can ejaculate. But this doesn’t mean that you can’t give it a go.
Stimulating your G-Spot can certainly help to make you ejaculate, as well as certain positions such as doggy-style. But all women are different, and it is all about experimentation!
Does everybody have a G-Spot?
Many of you may be thinking ‘is the G-Spot even real?’. As far as the G-Spot goes, it really does depend on your body. If you have never experienced your G-Spot, that doesn’t necessarily mean that you do not have one – but who else would know?
Can I still have an orgasm if I don't stimulate my G-Spot?
Yes. You can still have orgasm. Most women will ‘come’ by stimulating their clitoris either with their own hands, their partner’s, a bullet vibrator or even by performing sex ‘on-top’ and rubbing their clitoris against their partner.
As with so much to do with sex and private parts, everyone is different. If G-spot stimulation does it for you, then that’s A-OK; and if it doesn’t, don’t sweat it. It’s all about enjoying the sexual exploration.
One final piece of good news: there is some evidence to suggest that as women get older and their levels of the sex hormone oestrogen begin to drop (usually in their 30s), the G-spot becomes more sensitive. So, even if it takes you years to find, the G-spot could feel even better when you finally discover it!