Will they laugh if I say I’m a virgin?
Be ready and steady before you go
If you think you’re the only virgin in the village, you might be surprised to hear that over a third of 18-24 year olds are virgins(1). That figure’s higher some countries and lower in others, but it goes to show that being a virgin hardly makes you stand out.
Times are changing. Millennials like you are staying virgins longer, having sex far later than previous generations(2). It’s somewhat ironic that with more and more porn to access, your real-life sexual activity is actually falling. One theory is that social media and sexual content on demand is giving you a fear of intimacy. Which is sad.
Your mates might boast about their one night stands and the number of people they’ve slept with. But are you sure they’re telling the truth? And who cares if they are?
Knowing when to lose your virginity, and who to lose it with, is a very personal, big decision. No one has the right to pressure you or make you feel uncomfortable if you’re not ready – even your partner. If they laugh at you when you tell them they’re the first, at least you know (before you go any further) that they’re not who you thought they were. Zip up, ship out and wait for someone who treats you with respect.
If they don’t laugh, bingo. You’ve been honest, it’s no big deal, and (provide you’re both ready) you’re good to go.
Before you do, take a look at our article about preparing yourself for your first time. There are plenty of tips to make your first time an amazing time.
1. Durex Sex Survey (p. 59)
2. 2. beta.ukdataservice.ac.uk/datacatalogue/series/series?id=2000030
Please note, access to the original study requires an account with the UK Data Service. However, it has been widely reported in the National newspapers e.g. https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2018/05/06/millennials-turned-sex-study-suggests-one-eight-still-virgins/