The lowdown on anal sex

Consent is key

Considering anal sex for the first time?

There are a few things you may need to think about before you take the plunge. Anal sex can be a wonderful thrill and a great way to spice things up in the bedroom however, it’s not quite as straight-forward as simply deciding to try it.

Anal sex can unlock new realms of pleasure, if you’re a newcomer though, the whole thing can be fairly intimidating. But fear not, we’re here to help. Consider this your anal sex beginner’s guide, where we provide you with some great tips for anal sex.


Let’s start with the basics. This is a question you are probably turning over and over in your mind if you are planning on having anal sex for the first time – particularly if you are the one who is going to be receiving anal sex – what does anal sex actually feel like?

Well, there isn’t a simple, straight-forward answer to this question. We believe it’s all about the preparation. Get things wrong and anal sex can be a pain. Get it right and you may find you can’t get enough.

It’s important to note that the purpose of anal sex is essentially pleasure, but it’s not as straight-forward as vaginal sex. The vagina, unlike the rectum, produces a natural lubricant to help things run smoothly. This means that rushing into anal sex isn’t advisable. You may be aiming for pleasure, but you may end up with quite a bit of discomfort if you don’t plan and lubricate properly.

Once you have consent, your first consideration when prepping for anal should be lube. First and foremost, it’s important to check that your chosen lube is anal sex friendly, so be sure to read the pack instructions fully before use. If you’re looking to acquaint yourself with a new anal lube, then look no further than our Perfect Glide Silicone Based Gel Lube. It should help your first time run as smoothly as possible, as it doesn’t dry out easily. 

Once lube is applied to the anus, you might consider “warming up” first. This should ensure that your partner’s penis enters you more comfortably. You could have them start with a finger or introduce a small sex toy, before progressing on to penetration with the penis. Whatever you and your partner(s) are comfortable with!

Once your partner is in, you will find that anal sex, although a different feeling from vaginal sex, might provide you with a world of pleasure and new sensations.


One great benefit of anal sex is that it reduces your chances of getting pregnant. If you and your partner are a little concerned about pregnancy and want to avoid this, then anal is an option to consider.

As you may be aware, when you use a male condom according to the pack instructions for vaginal sex, they are 98% effective at preventing pregnancy. With anal, you can be assured the chances of getting pregnant are minimal.

Another benefit of anal sex for women is that you might be opening yourself up to a whole new world of pleasure. Anal sex can be very exciting and stimulating, but once you’ve gotten used to the feeling of anal, it doesn’t need to sit in isolation from other forms of sex.

Whilst your partner penetrates you anally, have them experiment with some vaginal penetration with sex toys. This way you’re going to be getting twice the pleasure you usually would!


The main benefit of anal sex for men is that it can result in a powerful orgasm. This is because anal sex can stimulate the prostate (also known as the ‘P spot’) triggering a prostate orgasm.


Anal sex is safe and does not cause any long-term damage. As always, using contraception and practising safe sex is the preferred method, as anal sex carries a higher risk for HIV, especially for whoever’s receiving.  At the same time, anal won’t stretch your anus to the point of causing anal leakage or similar health issues. But you might feel like you need to poop when you’re first penetrated or after you’ve finished – but an accident is unlikely! 


If you want to get more out of anal sex, there are loads of ways to do it. First off, why not try incorporating some analingus into your foreplay repertoire? Adding some rimming (analingus) can go a long way to help make your anal experience that little bit more special. Check out our introductory guide to analingus to get started.

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