Whoever you are, and whatever your situation, dating can be a great way to rekindle the romance, even from the comfort of your own home.
What do we mean by dating at home? Well, it’s about making time for one another; a period of focusing on the person you care about. In the mania of everyday life, this is a practise often overlooked. Especially for those of us with kids.
Let’s make the most of the additional time we all have when we’re not being pulled in different directions. Here are 6 tips for dating at home:
1. Create the right atmosphere
Getting that ‘date’ feeling is tough when you’re spending more time at home. When our bedroom doubles as a study and the lounge is also our weekend hangout, it leaves little space for a designated date.
But there are things we can do to transform our homes, like turning balconies into a prime picnic spots or reliving our childhood with DIY tents. So, light some candles, get out your best cutlery and put on a romantic playlist.
2. Get Talking
Just as important as where you are is what you talk about. Regardless of how well you know each other, a date atmosphere can draw out conversation. There’s always something surprising to learn. Treat your evening as you would a normal night out and use it as a chance to get to rekindle the flame.
Create some rules so that you don’t slip into the menial chat of who took the bins out – own this time as chance to bond. And try a little seduction. We can all do it once we find our flirting rhythm – it’s about creating ‘a private world’ for you and your partner.
3. Do things together
Of course, dating is more than just dinner and drinks. Some of the most memorable dates are activity-based, and since quarantine is encouraging us all to get creative, now is the perfect time to do this with a partner.
Challenge each other to a cook-off using random cupboard ingredients or take up painting (and progress to life drawing). Perhaps you’ve got a garden and want to get your fingers green? Plant some fruit and veg that you can nurture together.
Once you’ve explored a hobby, use lockdown to learn what they enjoy when they’re away from you. If they’re yoga-obsessed, suggest you try out a few classes with them. This can even be a great segue into sex, check out our 10 yoga sex positions now for some exciting tips.
4. Set up a romantic home spa
There are certain activities we reserve for when we really deserve it – and the spa is one of them. Whether it’s pedicures, calming music or facials, we all have ways to help us relax and unwind.
Draw a bath using your nicest essential oils and suggest taking it together (you could even spend time drying each other off afterwards). In lockdown, we can make everyday tasks exciting, so forget the time and lose yourself in the moment.
Massage is an obvious way to create closeness. If you’re new to dating and want to take it slow, a simple head massage is enough to get your blood flowing. Why not check out our tips for the perfect romantic massage to get you started?
5. Rediscover each other’s bodies
Over time, we can lose sight of the simple stuff, like the sight of our partner’s naked body. If you’re looking to reconnect with your partner or are finding your way as newbies, making a pact to sleep naked every night forges that intimacy without the need for words.
Some studies suggest that sleeping in the buff heightens happiness in a marriage (going skin-to-skin releases Oxytocin, the hormone influencing feelings of emotional understanding).
6. Talk about sex
Just like a great orgasm, there’s joy in taking dating slowly. When you’re comfortable around each other, have an open conversation about your hidden kinks. Talk to your partner about the things you want to try. Sex toys such as cock rings or vibrators can add another element to your sexual experience, so if this is something you want to explore, talk to your partner and order them together.
Being honest about our sexual desires can seem daunting, especially if you’re in a new relationship, so if you’re feeling worried about discussing them face-to-face, write your partner a sex wish list. Above all else, consent is the most important thing in every relationship and it’s vital this is maintained.
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